Teenage Bird

There’s a video making its way around social media that’s meant to be adorable but won’t stop haunting me.

In it, a small open-mouthed bird marches after a worm. It gets close to the worm, and the worm wiggles away. The bird seems nonplussed for a moment, then follows it and opens its mouth again.

This repeats a few times, and a text appears to explain what’s happening: when baby birds leave the nest, the only way food has ever gotten into their mouths up to that point has been from their parents putting it directly into their mouths. Apparently, there can be some confusion about how to make it happen on their own.

It’s pretty adorable unless, as I do, you horrifyingly see your current self in the baby bird.

But the bird’s probably got it easier than you or me. We all see the straightforward solution to its plight, and we know that it will eventually figure it out. It’s got instinct on its side, after all.

For me as for many others, those open mouths might stay open for a very long time. I know I’m the bird, but what’s the worm? In my case, it’s a symbol for nourishment: work that can get me the things I need like food, shelter, and possibly massages.

The video showed up for me during what’s turning out to be quite a rough time. As a writer and translator, I’m a contract worker everywhere; though I’m constantly on the lookout, I haven’t managed to nail down an actual full-time job with fair pay or benefits. It seems my generation was 10-15 years too late to the good employment party…what a difference I see between the opportunities of those currently in their 50s and 60s and my generation!

For most of the year, things have been great: I’m good at what I do and have had a constant stream of assignments that have kept me living well (in Mexico, anyway) and able to provide myself and my family with the benefits that a job won’t, like health insurance and some meager savings.

But since October, things have gone down. I’ve gone from being constantly busy with tons of fun work to having almost nothing to do, and am facing some very serious financial setbacks very soon if something doesn’t change.

Being in Mexico means that most new job offers want to pay much less than the going rate (“You don’t need that much, you’re in Mexico!” being the main assumption).

I’m officially “hired” at several different places (never put all your eggs in one basket, as they say!), but I can’t force anyone to actually give me work assignments. The word for the past couple of months has been, “Sorry, we don’t have anything for you right now…but we’ll let you know!” In the meantime, my savings are dwindling and there’s no new money coming in. Like that little bird, I can’t oblige anyone to give me work, no matter how willing and talented I may be. If I stay a contractor forever, this will be my working reality forever. I just can’t seem to get that steady job worm to hop into my mouth, and I’m not sure how to scoop it up myself.

Humans being the superstitious creatures they are, and me being human, I’m of course trying to find some meaning in all this.

Is it a sign? The message from the gods would seem to be to not depend on outside employment for income, but how do I “do my own thing” and make enough money at it to live?

I’ve long dreamed of becoming a professional organizer and decorator, which is another creative passion of mine: making places beautiful. But how, especially when I live in a place where people would likely not be able to afford what I’d need to charge to make it a real business and not simply volunteer work? And more importantly, how do I get money to support myself and my family in the meantime? It’s not that I’m trying to make excuses to wiggle my way out of a new venture, I just need to see a path where we’ll get to keep eating while I figure it out.

How, oh how, do I scoop up that little worm?

To end, here’s another great meme I saw, in the form of a headline (the satirical news site Reductress always brilliantly saves the day): “‘I Need a Second Job,’ Says Woman Who Actually Needs Different Economic System.”

Ah. There it is.


12 thoughts on “Teenage Bird

  1. This is disappointing to hear that one of the most interesting and relatable writers that I see online is having significant problems. I don’t know what the solution is, because you seem to be doing everything right. When you write about yourself, you also show a lot about Mexico and I like hearing about Mexico. You could have mentioned that you write in a creative way and that isn’t all that common for someone doing commentary. Best of luck in your career.

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    1. Oh, I’m certainly open to “non-creative”…maybe I’m just not looking in the right places? I’ve found that more “serious” offers as well want you to be physically in the US, even if it’s a 100% remote job. Maybe I’ll write another blog later about the perils of having all the tax obligations of any US citizen but a surprisingly small slice of the rights, ha!


  2. Hello Sarah. I just read your post. I infer that you have moved to Mexico from the US and are having difficulty finding gainful employment or freelance work here. I have lived in Mexico since 1980 and retired from working about 8 years ago. I started my own business in 1987 and left it after 25 years. Iā€™d love to hear more a about your situation. You can reach me at my email.

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    1. Thanks, John! I’m inclined to ask you for advice, but the economic panorama is so different now than it used to be. I’ve always just assumed that employers ask themselves once in a while, “hmm, will the workers here be able to survive on this model?” I just don’t think they are.


  3. I wish I could offer more than homilies: “You’re so good at what you do, I’m sure something will turn up”; “You’ll be a better person for getting through this dry spell”; “Most of us have been there, and you have our sympathy”–all of which are true, but I doubt any of them give you any succor. I wish I could do better.

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